Quarter mark in the 2016 season arrives with not much settled

first_imgEUREKA >> The battle for the track championships in Redwood Acres Raceway’s six divisions is still up in the air. With the season nearly a quarter of the way done there are a lot of things that can change between this weekend’s upcoming race on June 11th and the final point races in September.Redwood Acres’ newest division, the Legends, are picking up cars as the season progresses. Current point leader, Brent Mack, has managed to be the only driver to be able to start each of the four feature …last_img read more

An Inner Coach Instead of Inner Critic

first_img Essential Reading! Get my first book: The Only Sale Guide You’ll Ever Need “The USA Today bestseller by the star sales speaker and author of The Sales Blog that reveals how all salespeople can attain huge sales success through strategies backed by extensive research and experience.” Buy Now Each of us has an Inner Critic. It’s that voice you hear telling you that you cannot do what it is you want to do—or need to do, in some cases. That voice says horrible things to you, like “You are going to fail because you are not smart enough to do this. The people who are doing what you want to do all know way more than you.” The Inner Critic sows the seeds of doubt—and fear.The Inner Critic, never satisfied that it has protected you from harming yourself, continues, “You are going to make a fool of yourself, and people are going to judge you when you fail.” The Inner Critic then calls forth evidence to make sure it controls you with the reminder that, “You failed before, and you were mortified. What are you going to do when you fail again?”This voice, the Inner Critic, is a composite. It is, in part, your fears and doubts. When we humans gained consciousness, we also gained self-consciousness, the ability to feel shame. It is also the voice of your parents who tried to protect you from hurting yourself, which may have worked in the short term but harmed you in the long run, depriving you of the hormesis, the adaptation to small doses of adversity and discomfort that increase your adaptation to these things in higher doses.Thinking is mostly made up of talking to yourself. You ask yourself questions and you answer them. None of us hear what you are saying to yourself unless you speak the words out loud. One of the dominant voices for some of us is the Inner Critic, but it doesn’t have to be the dominant voice you hear.You can also have the voice of an Inner Coach. That voice is the polar opposite of the Inner Critic and, when it’s strong enough, it crowds out the Inner Critic. The Inner Coach says, “If other people are smart enough to figure this out, you’re smart enough to figure it out, too. Get busy working.” Instead of fear and doubt, the Inner Coach provides the confidence to try.Your Inner Coach won’t tell you that you are going to fail and embarrass yourself. Instead, what you’ll hear is: “This is going to work, and if it doesn’t you can make adjustments and try again. It isn’t the end of the world.” Your Inner Coach recognizes that the journey to success is fraught with failure along the path, and that no failure is final. Where the Inner Critic counsels you to, “Stop. Be safe,” the Inner Coach, says, “You’ve got this. Go!”Your Inner Critic is the voice of fear and self-doubt and scarcity and cynicism and pessimism. It is here to protect your ego from harm. Your Inner Coach is the voice of confidence and abundance and optimism and empowerment. Both of these voices are yours. Because thinking is made up of talking to yourself, the reply to all the statements from your Inner Critic can come from that bigger part of you that is your Inner Coach, the part of you that knows that you can be more, do more, have more, and contribute more.Becoming the best version of yourself is going to require that you liberate yourself from fear and self-doubt. You get to decide what each of these voices say to you and whose counsel you take. My Inner Coach duct-taped my Inner Critic to a chair and locked him in a closet a long time ago. I haven’t heard from him since (although I occasionally hear a small murmur from time to time, it’s hard to make out).last_img read more

The Value In Challenging Yourself

first_imgSometimes things can get a little boring (or a lot boring, in some cases). You get stuck in a routine, even though you didn’t try to create or maintain that routine. You are doing the same things over and over, and what was once interesting no longer interests you. Nothing is riveting about a status quo that has lived on longer than it should have.Maybe I am talking about your work life. Alternatively, maybe you are reading this, and it calls some other part of your life to your mind’s eye. In some area, you have likely been lulled to sleep by comfort and competence, the combination that creates stasis in human beings. Comfort and competence are how one stops growing; you know how to do what you need to do, and you accept your current results.Giving Up What You KnowBut what if you were no longer competent? What if you raised the bar you set yourself higher than anyone else would dare to set it for you? What would you have to change to improve what you are doing so much that your current level of competence wasn’t good enough for the new standard you set for yourself?What if the level of performance of which you are capable is so far beyond what you have accepted that it would be worth pursuing? Could you give up the comfort of your current state—and the greater comfort of your competence? Could you adopt the beginner’s mind and look at something with new eyes, accepting that you have to let go of what you have to have what comes next?Post Traumatic Growth SyndromeI believe in post-traumatic growth syndrome, the adversity that causes people to grow from the experiences and challenges that life throws at them. However, you don’t have to wait for adversity to find you. You can challenge yourself.You can set new goals that require you to rethink and reimagine everything you know in order to produce results that are far greater than anything you have produced up until now. You can set new standards for yourself and your performance in some area where you lack the knowledge and skills and disciplines to reach that standard. You can challenge yourself, and in doing so, create your own adversity—the kind of adversity through which you transform into the better version of yourself, you 2.0, or 3.7, or 5.1, or whatever. Essential Reading! Get my 3rd book: Eat Their Lunch “The first ever playbook for B2B salespeople on how to win clients and customers who are already being serviced by your competition.” Buy Nowlast_img read more